There's a stupid saying that I used to hear as a kid. , File size No, not a feisty, angry, explosive conversation maybe you've had some of those before. And this book I mean. I'd recommend never using the word homosexual when referring to people. So let's have that discussion. but maybe they will in the future? Joan, a senior executive, wasn't the easiest person to deal with. No handwriting, highlighting or underlining. I am grateful that I came across this book. My heart breaks whenever I think about Jordan in that church office. That worked. It was a puzzling topic that I definitely needed to do some reading up on: and this ARC gave me a great chance to do so. But psychologically and mentally, she identified as a male. Or you could use the well-known acronym LGBT. One thing I've learned from talking to gay people over the years is that words really matter, especially in this discussion. calculus remarkably similar to mathematics . : I'm not a Christian but I like reading what Christians and others have to say about the subject of homosexuality, so I was interested to read this book. The term, is often used as a synonym for "same-sex attraction" (or SSA) and doesn't necessarily mean that the "gay" person is acting on that attraction. Jordan is still attracted to guys, but he's committed to a life without marriage and sex because he's convinced that same-sex relations are wrong and that he can best serve God through celibacy. When Maddie was nine years old, her dad chained her to a toilet in the basement and fed her scraps of food for three months. Preston Sprinkle has encountered these same questions, and as a theologian and a college professor he has dealt with these issues firsthand. Each one of these people has some experience with homosexuality. Preston Sprinkle does an excellent job arguing for the importance of loving and accepting all people, especially those of the LGBTQ community. She isn't attracted to women, but she chooses to be a lesbian because she vows that because of what her father did, "no man will ever touch me again.". Elegy Written in a Country Churchyard. Yet another thing? What I found was a helpful resource written in a concise and understanding manner that I would feel confident suggesting to my students to read. But no one at this church had known about his struggle. However you feel about homosexuality, the Bible, or whatever, this truth is. Before we really dive into our conversation, we need to get on the same page about some important words. and so NO PERSON has the right to judge or condemn another. Those nasty, abominable, gay people. "I know you all trust me and allow me to help out in church. That is, don't use it as a noun, like, "Hey, look at that homosexual." Men who feel more like women, and women who feel like men. I think what people really mean by "lifestyle" is here we go sex. Preston Sprinkle really seems to hit the nail on the head with this book. then read it with your teen! I haven't even touched another person. He didn't want to go in there, but knew he had to. in this discussion. Too often, the terms gay or homosexual are quickly followed by the word lifestyle, like in Jordan's conversation with his church leaders. Short enough to read in one day, yet covers so much information. Im grateful for Prestons loving, biblical, and relevant treatment on such a controversial topic. I don't want my kids to hate but I do want them to know God's view on this. So let's drop the "lifestyle" lingo. Internet Arcade Console Living Room. And today, he actually has a very good relationship with people at his church. Queer is sort of a catchall identifier for everyone else who feels marginalized based on their sexuality. She read the title. So if someone asks you, "What's your view on homosexuality?" What if someone's actually straight, but they've had same-sex experiences in the past? What does God want us to do and say? The line between homosexual. Are we talking about people having sex with someone of the same gender? Sometimes it's inevitable to use the words "us" or "them." Because the answer is that Jesus came for EVERYONE, that He died for ALL sinners, that He loved and loves ALL people no matter what they do but because of Who He is.I highly recommend and encourage all parents and all Christians to read this. And that's why Maddie is a lesbian. Preston clearly explains that loving and accepting a person does not mean that one need approve of that person's choices or actions. Christians can no longer afford to be ignorant on this issue, and Preston does a great job shedding light in a loving manner.' He hadn't even touched another guy romantically. Gray, neither black nor white Gray, neither dark nor bright Gray, the color of choice . But now Lesli is a believer in Christ and helps other transgender men and women work through what it means to experience gender confusion. There's no alternative for bisexual (someone attracted to both men and women), so that word is okay. Learning to Live in the Gray. Focus on the people, not the issue. When many Christians hear the term, they immediately think of sexual immorality. I don't want to be attracted to guys. in our conversation as a description of someone who is attracted to the same sex. Lots and lots of stories. We've got to stop talking about issues and start talking about human beings. Who are us? When many Christians hear the term gay, they immediately think of sexual immorality. Brief content visible, double tap to read full content. Prestonis also the founder andpresident ofthe Center for Faith, Sexuality, and Gender. And if you're a Christian teen, you may feel overwhelmed by the opinions. After all, gay and lesbian people live the same lives as straight people. However you feel about homosexuality, the Bible, or whatever, this truth is. I don't struggle with wanting to have sex with children.". They prefer to be called gay or lesbian. I'm not a, I don't struggle with wanting to have sex with children. Jordan is still attracted to guys, but he's committed to a life without marriage and sex because he's convinced that same-sex relations are wrong and that he can best serve God through celibacy. Featured. Through honest conversation, real-life examples, and biblical research, Sprinkle unpacks what we can know to be true, and how Scriptures overall message to us today allows us to move forward and find answers that align with Gods intent. A Great Guide for Understanding LGBT Questions, Reviewed in the United States on July 26, 2021. These promotions will be applied to this item: Some promotions may be combined; others are not eligible to be combined with other offers. Which makes his message confusing cause its full of hey I love you, but I cant love or accept this one part of you. Reviewed in the United States on August 16, 2021. And sometimes there are several other letters added to the mix, like LGBTQTIAP (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Transsexual, Intersex, Asexual, Pansexual) and a long list of others. In other words, she realized that she was "transgender" (we'll get to that word later). Now fades the glimmering landscape on the sight, And all the air a solemn stillness holds, Save where the beetle wheels . It is the core of a leaders work. He didn't know what to say. Words such as "we" versus "they," and "us" versus "them." Even if you desired to be one of "us" (the good, righteous, straight people, who happen to be attracted to the opposite sex), you've just been pushed out to the community of "them." He didn't know what to say. (Even though it is written for the 15-22 yo demographic so they should read it too!) Eating disorders, depression, and suicide are often caused by hurtful words. It goes like this: "Sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me." ASIN ask them what they, when referring to people. As if that wasn't bad enough, he raped her over the next four years. There are no bad questions in our conversation. There's no alternative for. If people are born gay, then doesn't this mean God made them that way? I know. It really comes across in this book as in everything he does. Preston Sprinkle (PhD, Aberdeen) is a teacher, speaker, and New York Times bestselling author. Dan isn't very religious and he often gets frustrated with conservative Christians. After all, gay and lesbian people live the same lives as straight people. Men who feel more like women, and women who feel like men. Sorry, there was a problem loading this page. Through honest conversation, real-life examples, and biblical research, Dr. Sprinkle unpacks what we can know to be true, and how Scriptures overall message to us today allows us to move forward and find answers that align with Gods intent. But as you can see, their stories are as different as night and day. Preston and his wifeChris, live in Boise, Idaho, with their 3 daugthers and 1 son. I had high hopes for this book, and there is much good in it. Stories that make them sing, and stories that make them shudder with cold sweat. It looks like WhatsApp is not installed on your phone. Reviewed in the United States on November 4, 2019. He mocks them, yells at them, and would love to see the conservative church simply fade out of existence. Teen & Young Adult Nonfiction on Dating & Intimacy, Learn more how customers reviews work on Amazon, Zondervan; Gld edition (December 8, 2015). "[d]on't worry about being too liberal or too conservative. People who have been raped into lesbianism, and people who have been born with same-sex attraction. I didn't decide this. I'm going to converse with you through these pages as if we're hanging out at a coffee shop together. He didn't know what to say. A Christian Teen's Guide to Understanding Homosexuality, "Um when? Dan is the type of guy many Christians think of when they hear the word. That is. That is, don't use it as a noun, like, "Hey, look at that homosexual." I truly hate that the media practically forces sexuality and sexual immorality on children and teens, and I am thankful for this book as a tool to delve deeper into these issues. Ever. What if someone's actually straight, but they've had same-sex experiences in the past? Millions of people have been psychologically and emotionally slaughtered over something they were called more than twenty years ago. Jordan was helping out in the youth group at church and had just completed a year of college. But almost every gay person I know does not like to be called "a homosexual." I love that over and over Sprinkle Im a college pastor who has continually wanted a biblical, compassionate resource to give to students and youth who are either struggling with same sex attraction or trying to figure out what the Bible says about homosexuality. I purchased the kindle version of this book to screen it for my teenager, then ordered the paperback for her to read. It's recommended for teens age 15 and up, but I would actually recommend it for mature younger teens as well. From a few months now I'd been looking for resources on the subject and, as far as I've looked and read, this is one of the most complete books, if not the best. This book was written for teen readers 15 years ago and older, but I think many adults can benefit from reading this book. Each one of these people has some experience with homosexuality. Words have the power to hurt and to heal, to build up and to tear down. We'll talk about all this stuff in chapter 4. I know. Shipping cost, delivery date, and order total (including tax) shown at checkout. The Bible says that they are an abomination!". He didn't want to go in there, but knew he had to. The author refers to sexuality and attempts to speak from a very limited viewpoint. I would highly recommend this book. I know it sounds weird for a book to be a "conversation" especially since you won't be able to talk back at this book without others thinking you're nuts. And the confusion continued to dehumanize Jordan limb by limb. very easy to read and understand content. Some who believe in Jesus, and others who despise the Christian faith. Sometimes the English language demands it. Please use a different way to share. Plenty of Great stuff. What do you mean? What I'm about to say will be foundational to everything I write in this book. As a grown adult who can read, I do know what the book is about because I READ the SUBTITLE and description before I put it on hold. Reviewed in the United States on March 22, 2021. "Transgender," if you're wondering, refers to someone who doesn't identify with his or her biological sex. But I know many gay people who aren't having sex. Top subscription boxes right to your door, 1996-2023, Amazon.com, Inc. or its affiliates, Teen & Young Adult Christian Social Issues, Teen & Young Adult Values & Virtues eBooks, Teen & Young Adult Dating & Intimacy eBooks, Learn more how customers reviews work on Amazon. very easy to read and understand content. I support this author in the belief that same-sex attraction is okay, and that we should accept people for who they are, not just for what their attraction is compared to other people.It felt dangerous and hard reviewing this book. but maybe they will in the future? The nature of todays conversation about sexuality means that this book, written in 2015, already feels a bit dated in some ways, but the core concepts are still really valuable and I would comfortably recommend it. Gay. In repeat cross-sectional analyses, participants living closer to a new motorway junction were more likely to report using a car at follow-up than those living further away (odds ratio 3.4, 95% CI . I struggle with same-sex attraction. . Whose side would you be on? : Maddie is a lesbian, but she's not attracted to women. To add the following enhancements to your purchase, choose a different seller. So let's drop the "lifestyle" lingo. Gray areas demand our best judgment. Living in a Gray World "This is the book i have been waiting for! Dan isn't very religious and he often gets frustrated with conservative Christians. In a world filled with confusing messages and influences that are directly opposed to my beliefs, I was SO glad to find this book. Everything is explained so clearly and the author does a great job of having a relatable conversation so as not to come across harsh. They prefer to be called gay or lesbian. I think it's time to have a conversation about homosexuality. Bring your club to Amazon Book Clubs, start a new book club and invite your friends to join, or find a club thats right for you for free. There's a stupid saying that I used to hear as a kid. I'm not going to pretend that there's one cookie-cutter answer to every question. My point is to be very careful about using these terms and to make sure you don't cause people to feel like some less-than-human "other.". We're talking about people. Before Jordan could respond, another leader added, "And what about our children? PS treatment of James 1:14-15 muddies the distinction between being attracted to someone of the same sex, and actually desiring them in a sexual manner. (someone attracted to both men and women), so that word is okay. Reprinted by permission. Lifestyle. Unfortunately, many gay and lesbians feel like this whenever they hear Christians talk about "those gay people" or other such "they/them"-type words. Before we really dive into our conversation, we need to get on the same page about some important words. Im a college pastor who has continually wanted a biblical, compassionate resource to give to students and youth who are either struggling with same sex attraction or trying to figure out what the Bible says about homosexuality. However you feel about homosexuality, the Bible, or whatever, this truth is nonnegotiable: Homosexuality is about people and not about some issue. He believes that 'the homosexuality question is first and foremost about beautiful people loved by God' (p.52), so the book is filled with stories of people Preston . But as you can see, their stories are as different as night and day. An honest talk filled with authenticity and love. It was a kind and practical book. Sometimes it's inevitable to use the words "us" or "them." Let's have a cordial conversation. Great little section on responding to friends who say they are gay. Just concern yourself with being too much like Jesus. We also need to be careful about the term, It's fine to use it; I'll use it throughout our conversation. Living in a Gray World approaches the issue of homosexuality biblically and yet with tremendous compassion and care. in our conversation as a description of someone who is attracted to the same sex. But we need to be very clear about what we mean. So let's have an honest dialogue about a very tough topic. They all have a unique set of experiences, joys and fears, things they hate and love, things that make them smile and other things that make them crazy mad. This book is not written as a book. For now, I'll use the term. Wouldnt make eye contact with me. And they have stories. (We'll get into the whole "born with it" debate later as well.) Although she had many excellent qualities - she was creative, had a great capacity for . A feisty, angry, church-hating loudmouth who loves to fire off mean comments on blogs and Twitter. But I also cringed a little bit wanting to clarify that the book was not for my sonit was for me. Bring God into your life and avoid being a man just "existing" in this world. These ebooks can only be redeemed by recipients in the US. , X-Ray Jordan is one of the most amazing Christians I've ever met. We're going to look at the Bible, psychology, and philosophy. ansexual) and a long list of others. Sprinkles companion to People to Be Loved is an abridged version written to youth and college students. The last thing Jordan remembers that night is heading to his car, locking the door, squeezing the steering wheel until his fingers turned white, and screaming away his pain. Excerpt. Living a lukewarm life is actually living in a "gray world" because you are missing out on the joys and blessings God intends for us. We're talking about people. Everything is explained so clearly and the author does a great job of having a relatable conversation so as not to come across harsh. This is the seventh issue of TSB's 33rd season, with cover artwork featuring some very worried looking people by Arley Byrne. Does every gay person have the same, I think what people really mean by "lifestyle" is here we go . But almost every gay person I know does not like to be called "a homosexual." Thank you, Preston Sprinkle, for taking the time to write this much-needed book! 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